My non-response is not due to a belief that an answer would be impolite or inappropriate, rather, out of the realization that the issue they are asking me to provide a solution for is much too dynamic to be answered off the cuff. I always muse, if people only understood that the African-American male issue has been here for over four-centuries, in fact, it predates this nation, they would pause before posing such an issue.
I have a daughter. That statistic makes me sick. Some of it downright ugly. Growing up is mostly a wonderful thing.
My mom did the same thing with me at that age and it acted like a block in the doorjamb, keeping an avenue of communication open, if only a crack.
The short conversation we had about sexual assault was hard. Those statistics have faces that belong to real people, people who should never have been touched or treated the way they were, often by someone they knew and trusted. And so I told my daughter that her body was hers to control. No one else had a right to touch her without her permission, whether it was a hug or something more.
And she had the power to give or deny that permission for her entire life, at any point. When I asked her about what she does to stay safe on campus she had good answers, like walking in groups, checking in with friends and trusting her gut about who she spends time with.
But something about him unsettled her and she chose not to hang out with him again.
As much as I want my daughter to know this to her core, I want my sons to know it, too. They each had a fun weekend with Curtis, bonding over water slides, go-carts and laser tag with a little bit of talking man-to-man. That includes sexual assault. They have the character, the will and the capability to stop.
Jill Barville writes twice a month about families, life and everything else. She can be reached at jbarville msn. There was a problem subscribing you to the newsletter.
Double check your email and try again, or email webteam spokesman.For some parents, raising their daughters in a largely male-dominated society calls for some changes in how we raise our children in order to level the playing field.
One way to accomplish this would be to give these young girls more of an edge to start with, so to speak. Little girls are meant to be cherished, respected, and loved for the jewels they are. But when every other headline in today’s society is alluding to some new sexual assault/misconduct allegation, it makes it tough to believe that we can raise them in a safe world.
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Dec 30, · By and large, BUT My niece just graduated from high school and I met a few of her guy friends. One is openly gay (in high school) and does not get hassled for it, and and several of them feel free to add a little flamboyancy to their look (black nail polish).Status: Resolved.